Wow — what a wonderful way to end my week! Thank you so much for the very kind words, and thank you for reading and commenting here, as well as on one of my other pieces. Really appreciate your commentary.

Yeah I get some criticism, but nothing I can’t take. I have a 30+ year background performing (mostly in musical theatre, but also non-musical theatre, and some TV & film before that). Point is, I spent decades of my youth being picked apart in audition rooms in front of some of the harshest Directors, well before the #MeToo movement was a notion of being. I’ve got pretty thick skin.

Internet trolls are just meh. For the most part, they seem to be folks who have this perceived veil of anonymity and therefore write things they wouldn’t actually say out loud, face to face. Which is why they take such pleasure out of engaging in online debates, arguments, and downright ugly online fights, typically via the comments sections.

I’m all about engaging in real, thoughtful, intelligent dialogue. It doesn’t even have to be someone who agrees with me, though kind words like yours always warm my heart. I wish I had the time to respond to everyone who takes the time to comment. I try, but I fall short. I draw the line with trolls though. I tend to avoid engaging with people who seem intent on simply trolling for kicks.

One thing I’ve noticed is that it’s almost always, without fail, the cis/het white men who criticize the topics I write about, or my writing style in general (usually they don’t “close read” and end up mistaking my sarcasm for condescension), or whatever. I’ve sat through enough mansplaining seminars by now to know it when I see it. So that’s the type of criticism I usually get. Men who want to yell, breastbeat, put me in my place and claim their strong manly manhood.

I think it takes a really strong person to read something about any kind of privilege, and to sit back and just reflect on that, sit with the discomfort and just let it be. Sit and think about it, without having to knee-jerk respond with an argument. Ironic as it may be, I think the strongest types of men are the ones who are generally what society labels as “soft” (or anything else typically thought of as feminine.)

Anyhoo… sorry to ramble. Always happy to connect with a like-mind. Thanks so much for your kindness and your thoughtful reponses on my pieces.

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