Totally agree, Jeff. It’s exactly like the homophobic arguments against gay marriage: “gay marriage? What’s next — beastiality?!” Also agree that it all comes down to an issue of what’s those closed-minded folks perceive as “perversion.” Specifically, “sexual perversion.” It’s like they’re incapable of thinking of gay relationships in normal terms. They hear the phrase “gay marriage” and all they can think about from that point on is “gay sex” and all the logistics of it: what goes where/how does it happen/why does it happen/when does it happen/who “plays which role?” etc., etc., etc. Rather juvenile and ignorant, IMHO.

They don’t think of gay marriage in terms of a loving, consensual, faithful, strong, monogamous — even boring — marriage.

Which, I think, perfectly also encapsulates those who say, “I don’t have a problem with gay people, but I have a problem with them shoving it in my face!” It never occurs to them that straight people have forever been shoving their heterosexuality down the throats of gay people — holding, hugging, kissing, making out in public… yet we never hear the gay community rising up in protest and disgust over them, do we?

Thanks as always for sharing your thoughts.

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