Thanks for reading and responding. I wouldn’t say I’m even a bit “obsessed” with other people’s racism. Out of the hundreds of articles I’ve written on various outlets, only two have been on the topic of race and systemic racism. I do care about helping my fellow, cishet, white friends think about racism in a different way, but I’ve only written two pieces on this subject because I don’t want to be just another white voice taking up space when a black voice would be better. I often use my platforms to not speak about racism, but to hand the microphone over and amplify black voices. I predominantly write about marginalized communities, most particularly, the transgender community. I strive to be an effective advocate because I have three kids, one of whom is trans. Because trans kids don’t get a voice, as their parents, we have to be well-researched & educated on trans issues, we have to be articulate, and somewhat forceful in order to advocate properly for their needs. That’s at the heart of most of my writing.
As for my statement on America not being a meritocracy, I will justify it with this: powerful people almost always oppress or hold back people with ability or dreams. The “American Dream” is just a dream. One example: I’ve worked in education for a number of years. I’ve seen inheritance thriving way more often than sheer talent, grit, work habits, or perseverance. Some schools have more disposable income than others. Some students are more likely to be able to afford a university education, and especially, a Master’s or Doctoral program, which lead to networking and opportunities, which lead to the well-paying jobs, which lead to ability to live in safer, richer neighborhoods, etc.
Sources for the information I used are all linked within the article.
You say you don’t know what “ivory tower” I shop in? Lol. I wish. I’m dirt poor, living paycheck to paycheck and still barely making it. I live in the south. The Wal-Mart I shop in puts all the black hair products on a separate aisle than the Pantene, Suave, Redken, and other “white” hair products.
On your point of wondering what my “black friends say behind (my) back,” it doesn’t really matter. It actually doesn’t matter what anyone says behind my back. I grew up and spent most of my life auditioning in theatre and for a while, for film. I’ve been judged up and down, out loud, nice and not so nice, to my face on numerous occasions by casting directors. I’m not worried about what people might say behind my back, which says more about them than about me.
And no, sorry, but I don’t believe I’m superior to anyone. What I know I am is privileged, in that I’m white, grew up reasonably comfortable in a stable 2-parent home, and had my college education paid for. Privilege does not make me superior. It enables me a platform to spark dialogue, educate, and even occasionally, if I’m lucky, change the narrative.