Thanks for reading and responding. Yes, I wholeheartedly agree with you that this brand of toxic masculinity is owned by Americans. Which is why I used the word ‘American’ several times throughout this piece, and in statements like “Because of American cultural standards…” I can’t speak for what constitutes any other country’s definition of ‘masculinity,’ toxic or otherwise, since I haven’t lived there or studied this topic at length in regards to how it interplays with social mores of other cultures.

I’m saddened to hear that Toronto’s homicide rate is increasing so significantly, but I’m not surprised at all to hear that the reason is directly correlated to Americans smuggling guns across the borders. America has no shortage of home-grown criminals & terrorists, yet we have a thoroughly incapable administration in charge who will not admit this. Instead, they want Americans to believe that our crime rates are due to the influx of ‘Mexicans’ or ‘illegals’ crossing the border. All the mass shooters in America who have terrorized schools and killed innocent children have been American citizens — usually white — not illegal aliens.

I will argue against your point stating “it’s being American” exclusively. It’s the combination of being a male, plus being a male in American society, a society which glorifies the brand of machismo that accounts for a very small percentage of American males who really are that brand of machismo.

I agree that the country as a whole is sick in some distburbing ways. But being on the frontlines of those trying to increase and advance civil rights, fight to protect the environment, and get the party of Trumpism out of power (along with all the stuff that led up to where we are now), etc., I have met some pretty freakin’ amazing people who are fully invested in the values and ideals that America was founded on.

America will enventually recover and evolve forwards. Donald Trump did not win the popular vote; the majority of Americans do not like or approve of him or his job performance. A new Marist College poll finds that 20% of Americans rate President Donald Trump’s job performance as excellent, 20% as pretty good, 13% as only fair and 45% as poor.

Also, I agree with you that that dangerous thing driving many Americans is fear: (as you said) fear of being left behind, of ‘invaders’ from outside, disdain for civil rights, and that vague feeling that someone, somewhere is getting something more than you, etc., etc. The thing is, this isn’t largely representative of America as a whole. What you’ve described here is a typical Trump supporter, and, as I said, they aren’t the majority.

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