It’s totally fine that you don’t want to identify yourself or be referred to by your gender identity. You don’t have to! Nowhere in this piece was I stating you must henceforth always adopt this language; I was merely noting the irony in people who get angered over a word that accurately describes their gender identity (like, when you’re a female who’s not trans female). And yes, “cisgendered” is not accurate. It’s not even a word. “Cisgender” is a latin-derived word, and in most contexts, it’s an adjective, not a verb, and therefore cannot be put into past-tense. Just as how you’re a feminist, and not feministed. We don’t say “cisgendered” or “transgendered” any more than we’d say “gayed,” “straighted,” “heterosexualed,” etc.

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