I gotta admit, I came to the comments section on this piece for the sole purpose of seeing how many triggered white dudes showed up because they just couldn’t suppress their primal urge to illustrate your very succinct point, and thus, prove you right.

I’m pleasantly surprised, though, to see so many people applauding you and leaving appreciative comments! Very well-deserved. I loved this piece; I was high-fiving you all the way through. You’re obviously a very woke (but humble) confident person, secure enough in your manhood to address the elephant in the room. Really appreciate that quality; it’s a rare find these days.

Other white men: Take note. This is a perfect example of a male writer who LISTENS, but not only that. He also applies what he has LEARNED. Can we have more of that please? 😉

Because us women get labeled b*tches, or feminazis, or we endure all kinds of verbal lashings if we dare to call white men on the carpet for mocking us, mansplaining, or using misogynistic rhetoric. But I think the message packs a lot more punch coming from one of their own.

That said, unlike you, I do tend to write about (often) polarizing topics, so I get it. I’ve become a pro at reading comments sections and simply closing my laptop. Or not reading the comments. And yes, sometimes I take great pleasure in reading and responding to every single one. Just depends.

You’re so right. It’s always, always the white dudes who drop in to hand down their critique — frequently, with so many spelling and grammatical errors, you can literally see how fast their persecution complex drove their fingers to type and hit “post” without bothering to proof first. The ones who shout the loudest, and the “frequent flyers?” My feeling is they’re just the ones who harbor the highest amounts of repressed or unaddressed fears.

Oddly enough, it was a recent criticism on one of my pieces (by a white male, as usual) that led me directly to this piece. (He must’ve commented here somewhere but I don’t see it.) Regardless, what serendipity! Happy to have stumbled upon you, and I look forward to following and reading more of your work.

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