Hi Phoenix Huber, thanks so much for reading & responding — and for the kind words! I am so happy that you’re now, finally, able to live your authentic gender. Congrats to you (and a big Mama Bear hug from me). I’m always amazed by trans adults who are so kind and say they “admire” us parents of trans kids, when they themselves weren’t allowed to express their true gender growing up, for whatever reason (usually unaccepting parents/family). Of course, it’s probably just my selfish side showing here, but I say I’m amazed by the gentle kindness of trans adults like yourself because I tend to think I’d be bitter if I’d grown up with parents who were stifling or shaming. I know parents generally always love their trans kids (even when they don’t accept), but that non-acceptance is coming from a place of very deep fear. Still, I don’t understand why so many don’t bother to learn.

The only way I can relate is from having grown up in musical theatre during the ’80s, in the south, surrounded by gay people — mostly boys my age who were just coming out amidst the AIDS crisis, and were kicked out of their homes. I felt angry and bitter then that it happened to so many of my friends, and it still makes me feel that way today.

Thanks again for reading & responding. Hugs, my friend.

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