Hi Abigail, thanks for reading and for sharing your experience. Relationships are already so hard to navigate, and being an empath on top of it all can be overwhelming.

I believe in the power of open communication, especially in romantic or significant relationships. I’m sorry to hear about the troubles from your last relationship, but glad to hear you’ve moved on to someone who has helped you grow so much. It sounds like you have a much clearer picture of what you need.

When we first met 20+ years ago my husband was a closed book, but I could tell there was so much more beneath the surface that needed to come out. Fortunately, for both my sake and his, he was very open to the idea of exploring emotions & communication, and learning how to express pent up frustrations. He’d just never had anyone help him learn how to do that before.

We’ve been married for 20 years now, and I still ask my hubby “are you mad?” or “are you okay?” I know it drives him crazy sometimes!

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