As a lifelong Christian — who separated from the various toxic church denominations years ago, who has always had more gay than straight friends, and who is now a trans advocate (and the mom of a trans non-binary teen) — I can tell you that the church of your childhood, like most others, is not a true Christian church. The message of Jesus of Nazareth was simple; yet so many get it wrong.
I’m so sorry for what happened to you. It is not okay. It is most certainly not Christian — In the sense of Jesus’ teachings. Thank you for sharing this moving story with the world. For tackling a subject that many want to avoid. ❤️