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What deadnaming is, why it matters, and a few steps anyone can take to avoid doing it

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Photo by Sharon McCutcheon from Pexels


Here was a 10 year old child, grasping the notion of who they were at their innermost core better than most adults I knew, including myself.

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Photo by Eric Patnoudes on Unsplash


Let’s talk about what you’re *really* worried about instead

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Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash


Let’s debunk some myths!

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Image by Tumisu from Pixabay


Why we’re so resistant to it, and why we should definitely “check it”

A hot topic and label that’s accused of being insulting, presumptive, condescending (and even “racist”), ‘white privilege’ is possibly one of the most polarizing terms for white Americans today. Yet, it’s not a slur; it’s simply a fact — backed with research and statistics. To think of it otherwise is to vastly misunderstand the concept, and moreover, to outright dismiss an opportunity to foster empathy. If ‘white privilege’ is not pejorative, then why are we so resistant to acknowledging its presence in the first place?

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Image by WikiImages from Pixabay

“What more is it going to take? What more do we have to do to make up for what our ancestors did decades ago? Slavery is over! We all have the same opportunities now. People just need to quit complaining and pull themselves up by the bootstraps!”


We become advocates out of necessity, not out of desire

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Image by mohamed Hassan from Pixabay


But finally, some light is breaking through

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screengrab from HRC YouTube video, The Human Rights Campaign Endorses Joe Biden for President 2020


The answer is… politics in the era of reality TV show presidents

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Photo by C Drying on Unsplash

Setting: Sometime in the not-too-distant future; on set recording of TV game show “Jeopardy.”


The circus sideshow has overstayed its welcome. It’s time for the Ringmaster to exit stage right.

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Image by Lisette Brodey from Pixabay


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